Meet Me

Welcome. Allow me to introduce myself. I am Larry Earley,

Certified Relationship Coach. Let me explain a bit how I arrived here.

I grew up in a small town in northeastern Ohio, where I learned the Midwestern work ethic from a young age. I learned that if you wanted something, you had to earn it. Nothing was given to you.

I earned a football scholarship to college. Lost it. Worked in a foundry and attended night school to earn my way back where I became an honor student in psychology. Studied counseling in graduate school. In addition to my studies, I earned certification from the United States Professional Tennis Association, to manage clubs and teach tennis as my second vocation.

Got married. Got divorced. Suffered a heart attack. Had open-heart surgery. At a very young age.

Why am I telling you this about me? Because at this point, I was lost. I had gone from an on-court tennis pro in the prime of my life, to a young man who couldn’t walk to the end of my driveway.  I was physically and mentally beaten. I began to question everything in my life. Why was I spared, when so many others are not? What did I really want out of life? What was my purpose?

I had many questions, but no answers.

What did I do? I asked for help. After working my way through several out-of-touch therapists and life coaches, I found two mentors that helped me change my life forever for the better. And I mean much better.

Under my mentors’ expert direction, I learned to ask myself a series of well-thought-out, specific, probing questions, including:

“How did I  contribute to these failures? What past traumas was I refusing to confront? What did I need to do to become a better partner? A better human being? What was my purpose in life? What did I need to be fulfilled? Why was I saying, “I’m fine”, when I clearly was not?

We discovered together the deep-seated issues that lay beneath the surface stuff I spent so much time complaining about. Among other discoveries, I began to see that I had a habit of blaming my partners for all my failed relationships, when in fact I had often been the reason things didn’t work out. My stubbornness. My inflexibility. My always having to be right. Sound familiar? I just couldn’t see it, until my mentors helped me look inward.

Instead of continuing my search for my soulmate, I spent a year working on myself.

After much discussion, I began to gain clarity. And a new perspective on my life.

Only by asking for help was I able to find the answers that I couldn’t find on my own. My life would never be the same.

I realized I needed to go back and complete my graduate work. I did. I also became credentialed by two life coaching schools and earned certification as a Relationship Coach.

Thus began my life-long fascination with, and study of human behavior and relationships.

I’m now in my third decade of helping couples reconnect and find the happiness they deserve.

Why do I tell you about my background in such detail?

I want you to know that I, too, have made lots of mistakes. Suffered many failures. And I’ve learned from every one.

I know what it’s like to feel helpless. To feel unseen and unheard.

To be stuck. To feel pain. To feel frustration. To be in an unfulfilling relationship and have no idea how to make it better.

I also know how it feels to ask for help. To learn about yourself, really learn about why you repeat behavior patterns that just don’t work for you. Yet you keep repeating them, nonetheless.

Why many of us are in one unfulfilling relationship after another.

It was important to me that the professionals I turned to for help knew what it was like to overcome failure and heartache in their own lives. It was important to me that they had lived it, and hadn’t just read about it in books. I needed to know that they really knew how I felt, what I was going through. Perhaps that’s important to you, too.

Haven’t you suffered enough? Perhaps it’s time to stop trying to solve relationship problems with the same thinking that may have contributed to them. Stop settling and thinking that because you’ve had these same problems for so long, you just accept them as part of your everyday life. That doesn’t have to be the case.

All the valuable principles and relationship skills I’ve learned during my many years of training and helping others, I’ve applied in my own life. I know what works and what doesn’t work. I learned that resolving arguments peacefully and learning how to “fight fair” is a vital skill in a relationship. I can teach these relationship skills to you.

I want you to feel what it’s like to have a true partner, someone who makes every part of your life better, as I now have.

I would never have been able to attract, let alone hold on to, a woman as wonderful as my wife had I not “done the work” with trained professionals.

Avoid the years of pain and frustration that I suffered.

Let me help you reconnect with your partner and have the fulfilling relationship you want and deserve.

I look forward to speaking with you.